What are the agreements in your relationships? With partners, family, friends… yourself?
Are they unspoken or assumed?
Were they created at the beginning and never revisited? Do you create them like patchwork as conflicts or challenges arise?
We all have different ways of navigating agreements, but many of us were never taught how to talk about them, ask for them, or negotiate them.
In this 6-week class, we’re offering a space for you to re-imagine the agreements you want to hold for yourself in your relationships.
We are inviting you to step deeper into the desires of what you want your relationships to be.
6 Agreements for Relationships
Wednesdays at 12 PM ET
March 20 - April 24, 2024
on Zoom (recordings available)
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For us, agreements are the intentions we set for how we want to show up and be present. These are not rules, though rules often come from these agreements.
You will empower yourself to redefine relationships on your own terms, breaking free from the traditional confines that have many of us trapped.
This class is led and created through a trauma-informed lens that centers and celebrates choice, bodily autonomy, changing desires & limits, and the fluidity of our selves, identities, and expressions.
We are intentionally stepping back from the binary expressions and default expectations that are thrust upon many of us in relationships.
Taking responsibility for the agreements you need and want is life-changing and liberating. It requires that we question, unravel, and untether ourselves from the systems of dominance that have dictated our relational structures and frameworks.
This is an opportunity to create something new for yourself. Something better and more fulfilling.
This class is great for folks who want…
improved communication for how you ask for what you want and say no to what you don’t want
tools to build healthier and more fulfilling relationships
relationships to be easier (this can include romantic partners, family, friends, coworkers, or yourself)
greater self-awareness in relationships
to feel less constrained in your relationships
This group is a practice in presence, values, and love. It is an emergent embodiment of the agreements and how to navigate them with more ease.
We ask you to bring your full self to this class – physically, emotionally, and energetically. That means your vulnerabilities, fears, feelings of shame, desires, and pleasure. You always get to choose how you step in and out of participation and we will do our best to create a space that is safe enough, welcoming, and settled for all bodies and expressions.
Should I do this solo or with my partner(s)?
Whether you do it together or solo is up to you. We welcome all relationship constellations. This class will give you a shared language from which you can come together in new ways. Whether you attend solo or with your partner(s) is up to you. Note that each registration is personal. In the class, we will be focusing on our individual desires and limits around agreements. From there, you will be able to bring this new awareness and framework into all your relational spaces and containers.
About Adam Bee
Adam is a mentor, guide, and facilitator based in NYC.
Their 1-1 and group work center around questions of desire, consent, power, integrity, relationships, sex, and how to navigate it all with more ease.
Their work is influenced by many teachers and thinkers including Paul Muller Ortega and his guidance within the Shaiva-Sakta non-dual lineage of tantra, Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent, Resmaa Menakem’s Somatic Abolitionism, as well as many other spiritual and energetic teachers.
Adam’s work with the Wheel of Consent over the last 5 years led them to further inquiries into how we create spaces of agreement that generate more love, pleasure, and fulfillment.
About Helena
Helena De Felice (they/she) is a guide and facilitator.
She is passionate about developing individual and collective awareness and our capacity to connect authentically.
Her facilitation is trauma-responsive and non-judgemental, informed by many years in the field of prevention and response to gender-based violence, senior leadership roles, practicing and teaching holistic peer counseling, facilitating conflict processes, attending births and deaths, and leading erotic healing and entheogenic rituals.
Her work is primarily informed by Vajaryana Buddhism, the Wheel of Consent, Process Work, Somatic Abolitionism, Holsitic Peer Counseling, and Landmark. She’s grateful for her teachers Teri Ciacchi, Betty Martin, Resmaa Menaken, Arnold Mindell, Reggie Ray, and many more.
WHAT’S GOING TO HAPPEN
Each week we will explore one of the agreements and how it shows up in our lives pertaining to our group's theme.
This is an emergent process so there is not a set agenda, how we flow depends on the energy and curiosities of the group. Within that, we will utilize fishbowl mentoring, teachings, Q&As, breakouts, listening turns, and somatic experiments.
Each week we will bring extended focus onto one of the agreements with an understanding that they are all layered and interconnected. They each present differently in each of us and in each of our relationships.
Week 1 – Responsibility
Week 2 – Consent
Week 3 – Curiosity
Week 4 – Dynamics
Week 5 – Trust
Week 6 – Presence
YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES
To be present. Everyone’s ability to be present is different and our invitation is that you do your best to choose to be with us. That might mean listening to recordings, leaving early, or being there in real-time. We do ask that you not multitask while you are with us and that you in a private space where sharing and listening with vulnerability is more possible.
To be present out of class. There will be contemplations and inquiries for you to consider outside of class.
To be vulnerable. Any exploration of desire requires vulnerability and when we talk about desires in the realm of physical intimacy, the challenges of living in a society dominated by purity culture will surface.
To be honest. Honesty is critical for trust and we’re asking each of you to be radically honest with yourself.
To hold the group in confidence. We are inviting you into a deeply vulnerable place of community and healing. That is hard to do if we cannot hold each other in confidence.
To ask permission before taking. This includes the way we take time, space, and energy. It is related to the agreement of consent and we hold that value tightly.
Applications, REGISTRATION, and PAYMENT
A group like this requests your time, energy, presence, and money.
These all represent barriers to entry and if you’re someone who lives in a body that is traditionally marginalized and intentionally exploited, those barriers are usually greater.
While we do our best to create and hold groups that bring awareness to power, privilege, and rank – we know we alone cannot dismantle systems of oppression that exist in our cultures, groups, and interpersonal relationships.
In an effort to ease at least one of those dynamics, pricing is based on a sliding scale.
If you can afford to pay more than the base price, please do and understand that it helps support those who do not have as many financial resources.
If you cannot afford the base price, understand that you are helped and supported by others.
Base tuition: $400
Sliding scale: $200 - $600
After you submit your application, Adam will be in touch with you about payment, registration, and next steps.
This class is limited to 20 participants.